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Esilda Bruder

Sobriety Date:



Breezy Point, New York

Current activities:

I work in the Aviation Unit, for the New York City Police Department doing payroll and administrative work.

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What does recovery mean to you?

To me recovery means change. Changing the way I look at myself, the world and all who I share it with. Letting go of “old ideas” for a new outlook on life.

What does recovery look like to you?

Living life one day at a time, not living in the past or worrying about the future is what recovery looks like to me. I don’t do this perfectly and I don’t do it all the time but with God’s help I continue to get better at it. The longer I am sober the more I need to rely on God.

What is something you do for yourself in your recovery?

First thing I do before getting out of bed is recite the 3rd Step Prayer, the 7th Step Prayer and ask God to help me pause throughout the day when “agitated or doubtful,” I pray and meditate. I try to spend time with God every day and on days I don’t I definitely travel “heavy”.

What is something you do for others in recovery?

Sharing with other women, providing hope and assurance that they are not alone and that recovery is possible for us all.

Advice you’d give to someone new in recovery?

Early sobriety can be difficult. I’d say get a sponsor who has had a Spiritual Experience to take you through the steps so that you can find your Higher Power. It’s when we’re alone, in the middle of the night “thinking,” that we need to be able to rely on our Higher Power. We won’t always have someone around but God is always with us.

What’s your favorite hobby in sobriety?

I enjoy exercising. I find it’s a good way to release stress and tension and it makes me feel good. I like to walk and practice yoga.

Anything else you’d like to share or add?

“If I want to be free the problem has to be me.” I’ve heard many AA speakers share. God helps me change if I continue to do the work and am willing for Him to change me.

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